Yes, the title of this is sarcastic. The last thing most people need is lessons on how to minimalize someone. It gets done automatically, without a second thought. There's the main problem; lack of second thoughts.
The lovely United States Government has all kinds of ways to minimalize us, too numerous to count, but I will mention a few anyway;
Dismally tiny incomes for disabled women. You know, I nearly had a minute to rejoice over the 3% increase they so genererously dished out this year, raising my income to a good $703 per month......... but before the minute of rejoicing was over, my food stamps got reduced to compensate. And you know they never ever actually give me the amount they say they will, I get cheated a few dollars worth every month. So, here I go begging at donation pantries again IF I am able to get to one.
ok, what else...... oh yeah, the DMV, particularly the one in Montgomery County Maryland, was sweet enough to fine me $150 back in 2006 for being late returning tags on my car when it was junked after being vandalized... which I could not pay, so, even though they graciously absorbed all "stimulus checks" I was eligible for, they now think I need to pay them over $2,000 dollars [yes, two thousand] for late fees.
They very courtiously sent me a letter telling me there is no appeal.
I was supposed to get a copy of the police report showing my car was vandalized, but it would cost me $10 to get the report, and I can rarely afford the postage stamp. I sent them all of the proof way back when it first occurred, pleading for a waiver of fines, and they say they never got it.
Ofcourse.
EVERY time any mail must be sent to any government agency/entity; ALWAYS make them sign a receipt for delivery of the letter! ALWAYS!!! I'm not kidding. They all lie if you don't.
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ that's all they see.
O.K., so, I'm living in this tiny apartment, thank God for a roof over my head, and there is no room for my craft projects and art projects, so my living and dinning rooms look like a work room/studio. I can't possibly ever make anything if I keep every object in my closet, because it is impossible to find. It is also too painful moving stuff around.
So, my youngest sister, God bless her, has taken on this idea of buying a cheap house and renting it to me! How exciting. I can plan on growing some vegetables....... more food is a good thing, no GMOs is even better. Organic! YES!!!
I can also plan on a spare room to use for crafts/art projects, and maybe keep my living space looking like it is intended to look!!!
We hope that I will be able to eventually save up for a car........ but then; I'm going to have to give the DMV to God, because He knows where they can go with their stupid fees and fines.
Financial marinalization is dreadful.
Emotional marginalization is worse.
Getting visits from my daughter and grandson a good 3 or 4 times per year is absurd. But to be fair, she is being marginalized too, even if she fails to recognize it.
Visiting and calling people that love you and need to have some love back is not such a chore, really. It can open up your life to new possibilities, like joy and hope and caring.
I was enjoying the program of the Ellen Degeneres show, and she always does kind and thoughtful things for people in need. But do we need to have fame and fotrune to give? No, we can give small stuff; like the affore mentioned phone call.........
I nag. but my relatives know nothing of this blog, so it is just another venting rant over here.
I have some amazing friends here; one keeps giving me yarn. I love to crochet.
Another gives me rides to church with her family. Another picks me up every month for our Rosary meetings........ and a neighbor takes me shopping, and we treat each other to lunch [taking turns paying] every first week of the month.
If I move to the house I will be viewing soon, I might be able to go to a movie sometimes!!!!!!
the point; disabled, women and men, people who need help from others, spend a lot of their days home alone, with nobody visiting, nobody phoning and no joy.
if you have some joy, share it. You will not be sorry.
oh yeah, my sister is trying to teach me to wish big, so here is what I'm looking for in my life;
a decent house with a yard.
I want to be able to sit out in my yard at night and look at the stars without being affraid of being attacked.
I want hand rails in my bathroom
I actually NEED a walk in tub, but handrails is half way there
I want to plant the veggies and herbs, herbs so I can TASTE my food!
[veggies so I can eat every day]
I want my family to visit. I miss my nearby family, but not nearly as much as I miss my other children [adults]. I have not seen my son since 1994.
My other daughter calls me 3 or 4 times a day, but I have not seen her since 2008.
I want a van so I can visit my family, and drive other ladies to church and shopping. I want to be able to make enough crafts to generate some extra cash....... and I want the government to kiss my ass for telling me I can only earn $65 per month before they take away 50% of every dollar over that amount BEFORE taxes. Sorry bastards.
No, I won't appologize for using bad words about them, they deserve it.
oh yeah, thank God for the Lion's club, I got new glasses today! the first upgrade in my vision since september 2000
